I don’t know about you girls cope with anxiety when you’re busy, but my anxiety is through the roof right now, and probably will be until January – I feel like it’s the case with a lot of women I know right now!
We’ve talked a lot about anxiety over the years, but not in a while, so I thought I’d start an article on how to cope with anxiety – please feel free to add your own thoughts! How do you girls cope with anxiety when you’re busy, ladies?
There are several steps you can take to manage your anxiety and as a result, improve your interactions and relationships with women.
- If you find that you have panic attacks around women, teach yourself techniques that will help you come down from one. You can do this by measured breathing (inhale for four seconds, hold for seven, exhale for eight), distracting yourself from the panic (excuse yourself to a bathroom and play a song that calms you down or read something interesting) & practice grounding yourself (Find 5 things you can focus on, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste).
- Work on your confidence. If you have insecurities, identify what they are. If they’re realistic insecurities, then take the steps to work on them. If you want to be a better conversationalist, read books about how you can do that. If you want a different physique, change your diet or head to the gym. Boosting your confidence will help you feel more secure when interacting with women.
- Put yourself in situations where you interact with women, but they aren’t the main focus. Try a meet-up group that does something physical like hiking or kayaking.
- If you are ready to go on a date, try one that isn’t as stressful. Go to a movie but skip dinner, do something at night, try an amusement park. All of those things reduce direct contact and help prevent a potential panic attack.
- Be upfront about your anxiety. If you’re feeling nervous, you can let the other person know. Don’t focus on it though and don’t mention it two dozen times. Maybe they have suggestions for easing your anxiety.
Find Books and Shows that Make You Happy
When I was younger, I realised that I really enjoyed romantic books but decided they were such easy reads that I should limit myself to one or two a year, only after I’d read “harder” works. Accordingly, I read maybe three or four novels a year for much of my 20s and early 30s.
Well, for several years now, instead of reading one romance book a year, I’ve read about 40 a year – they make me happy, and I’m no longer going to limit myself to such an easy “win.” I like the happy ever after, the delight the characters find in each other, and the often silly turns of events. We’ve talked a lot about brain-candy books in the past; readers recently had some great threadjacks for fantasy and sci-fi books.
Similarly, we’ve talked about the best shows to help you laugh – just as important is avoiding shows that bum you out. My husband and I recently decided that Ozarks, while wonderful, was too dark for where I am right now, so we’re taking a break.
Connect with Friends
This is the biggest thing I’m struggling with right now. It’s hard to connect with friends while they’re busy; attempting to make social plans stresses me out. And that’s assuming that you and your friends are all on the same page with the pandemic and politics and so forth; my own friends and I have vastly different approaches to schooling, social distancing and thoughts about the protests and election and more. (And that’s among those I consider to be my liberal friends!)
I’m not sure of the best ways to feel more “connected” and grounded outside yourself — I’d love to hear what you guys think.
Again, this is a bit of a struggle right now – I’d love a massage or a spa day or a weekend getaway with my friends but… yeah, those aren’t happening right now.
I’ve been trying to do more restorative yoga with Down Dog. I’ve also been trying to spend time meditating, but when you’re in the throes of anxiety it can feel hard to disconnect and focus on your breath.
Therapy and Medication
Online therapy is easier than ever these days, and readers have sworn by anti-anxiety medication for years. I’ve never taken more than a few Xanax pills, though, so I can’t comment. Medication is highly suggested to be taken from Professionals and doctors. (This looks like a great guide to which medications are best for anxiety disorders.)